What People Don’t Tell You About Forgiveness | Ankush Jain

Forgiveness is a funny thing. It’s talked about in spiritual traditions and personal development all over the place. However, it was only when I came across this body of work called The Three Principles and especially Sydney Banks, that it totally changed the way I looked at forgiveness.

I hadn’t realised it, but I was holding on to a lot of judgments of other people all over my life. People who I thought had wronged me, people who I thought had acted unfairly towards me and despite having worked on forgiveness, I was still holding on to these judgments.

However, what I didn’t realise was when I was holding on to judgments of other people, not only was it only negatively affecting me, but it was also a reflection of some judgment I had towards myself. One of the greatest things that have changed in my life this year has been letting go of those judgments, forgiving myself – as well as other people – and really allowing a deep, respectful love to emerge for myself.

In the lead-up to my next Men’s Immersion program, I ran a webinar recently where I did an exercise with the attendees all around forgiveness. It was truly a powerful exercise for those people involved as they started to see, just as I have done this year, how much judgment and non-forgiveness they hold against themselves and how big of a barrier that is to their own success.

You could say, not forgiving yourself is the perfect way to stop yourself from stepping into your power.

One of my Immersion attendees, Alex Manzi, took that exercise to another level and recorded a fantastic episode for his podcast entirely based on it. I recommend you check it out below.