My most significant shift in 2022 has been my relationship with my wife. Early this year, I asked my coach Steve Chandler whether we could spend an entire session discussing my marriage. It wasn’t because my marriage was on the rocks or because we had any seeming problems. Our marriage was okay – some even may call it good – yet in my heart, I knew it could be incredible.
I said to Steve how many people might see my marriage as a 10 out of a 10 or a 9/10, but I felt it was actually closer to a 6 or a 7 in my mind. I didn’t want to have a mediocre relationship with my wife. What I also knew is this wasn’t about changing my wife, but about me seeing something deeper for myself.
It hasn’t been an easy journey. There were moments this year when I thought, “why am I bothering with this?” Yet, as I’ve explored the blind spots I’ve had with regard to my marriage, it’s been rewarding. I’ve seen past blind spots such as falling into victim thinking when my wife and I disagreed, for example.
I can genuinely say that my marriage and our relationship, in general, is better than it has ever been, which is something that my wife and I both agree on. I feel that I deeply love my wife – more than ever – and I now see even more clearly why she is so perfect for me.
When I’m genuinely willing to listen, many of the things that she says – which at first can seemingly bother me – are actually opportunities for positive change in my life. As my thinking has changed, my wife has transformed before my eyes.
If you’d like to hear more about this experience, check out this conversation I’ve recently done with my dear friend and colleague Rich Habets in which we talk about our year of conscious creation.
With love and appreciation,
Ankush Jain
Coach and Author of Sweet Sharing – Rediscovering the REAL You
