I wanted to share some fresh thoughts about UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and how it applies to coaching, enrollment and every aspect of our lives.
So many spiritual teachers, including Sydney Banks, would discuss love being the answer. There are videos online where “3 Principles” teachers have discussed this and I have felt a beautiful energy of love from so many teachers and mentors in my community. I heard that love is the feeling that arises when our “personal mind” quietens down.
Growing up, I felt a lot of insecurity and fear. It seemed that when other children didn’t want to play with me at school, love was alluding me. As a teenager, when I was bullied at school, I felt unworthy of love and didn’t realise that the unworthy feeling was a thought I had turned into a belief by holding onto it tightly.
The more I see that I am love and that this feeling is not conditional on my behaviour, past, or anything else, the more I can share this feeling with others. As many have written, putting on your mask before helping others is essential. As Sydney Banks pointed out, you cannot give away what you don’t have.
My journey with coaching and the Principles has, in many ways, been a journey of self-love, of dropping the thoughts that were getting in the way of my true essence. As I have done so, I have seen I was not alone. This is everyone’s true essence. The more I have seen this, the more I have to give to my spouse, clients, prospective clients, children, friends, family members, neighbours, and strangers.
I have seen that you outgive the universe. The more I bring unconditional love into my conversations and interactions with others, the more the universe reflects back to me. Years ago, a client signed up with me because I kept serving him even after he said no to a proposal I made for us to work together. Another way to put it: I kept loving him regardless of whether he paid me.
I committed today to bringing unconditional love to every coach in my coaching school, no matter what they say, share, do, or don’t do. I am creating a safe space for people to be themselves wherever I go because that’s when people feel loved—when they can be themselves and not feel judged. I am bringing that to my school’s Facebook group and my coaching community, too.
One of the 3 Principles teachers I am honoured to have in this year’s AJC is Dr Bill Pettit. The conversation we had about his life-changing realisations will help you see the deeper impact this understanding can have in your clients’ lives.
